My Husband Gave up on Parenting Because I ‘Nit-Pick at Everything He Does with the Baby’ — My Lesson for Him Was Brilliant
When my husband and I welcomed our first child together, I thought it would be a glorious journey for us into parenthood. Yet, my husband turned against me, trying to blame his ensuing behavior on me. But I was having none of it, and quickly taught him a well-deserved lesson!
My story is all about how I had to stand up for myself when my husband decided to take the back seat when it came to our first child. I used his family and friends to knock some sense into him and to take us back to a healthier relationship.
I’m 28 years old and currently a new mom to a beautiful baby girl, Emily. My husband, Tom, 36, and I have been married for four years. Our relationship has always been solid until Emily arrived. We’ve had our fair share of challenges, but nothing quite prepared us for the complexities of parenthood.
And the way things unfolded was nothing short of a dramatic lesson for both of us. Before Emily’s birth, my husband and I spoke about our future. He mentioned that if I criticized his parenting, I would get ONE WARNING and then he’d give up on fatherhood completely.
But, like any new parents, when our baby came, Tom and I were trying to figure things out. We often stumbled through sleepless nights and endless diaper changes. I had read several books on parenting and even attended a few parenting classes to prepare myself.
I wanted to be as informed as possible to give Emily the best care. Tom, on the other hand, was more laid-back. He declined my invitations to read the parenting books or join me in the special classes. His excuse was that he’d learn as he went along.
But, like any new parents, when our baby came, Tom and I were trying to figure things out. We often stumbled through sleepless nights and endless diaper changes. I had read several books on parenting and even attended a few parenting classes to prepare myself.
I wanted to be as informed as possible to give Emily the best care. Tom, on the other hand, was more laid-back. He declined my invitations to read the parenting books or join me in the special classes. His excuse was that he’d learn as he went along.
